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KISS and Make Up

Friday, November 20th, 2009

Just because we’re parents doesn’t mean we have to give up our rock ’n’ roll roots. Yes, we might mortify our children if we venture out in those tight leather pants. Others may mock our platform boots. Sure, you’ll get a few stares for the black-star makeup and overly coiffed hair. But wouldn’t it all be worth it if it meant you might win tickets to see one of the most iconic rock bands of all time?

Get out your white makeup, spiky metal shoulder pads and black vest and get yourself to KISS Night at the Anaheim Ducks game at the Honda Center tomorrow, Nov. 21. You’ll hear plenty of KISS music and find face painters giving fans the proper look. Then be sure to enter the “best dressed” contest, which will earn the winner two tickets to see KISS in concert on Nov. 24 at the Honda Center.

If you can’t make that one, KISS is scheduled to appear at Staples Center on Nov. 25 and is streaming the concert live on Facebook – just don’t let that stop you from dressing up.

“Time” For the Holidays

Thursday, November 19th, 2009

It’s holiday time. Know how I can tell? I have a zit, I want to eat a bag of chips, my dog is making me feel guilty and I have so many “to-do” lists and Post-It Note reminders of things that I could mark a trail between the office and the house.

And then there’s the finances… This time of year I feel as though I should just stand in front of my house and toss dollars into the breeze – teacher gifts, office gifts, hostess gifts, kids’ friends gifts. Not to mention a dog gift, since she’s making me feel guilty right now.

How do we manage it all and not pull out our hair – or, in my case, end up at the bottom of a bag of Cheetos? There’s no magic holiday bullet, unfortunately, but I found these tips from therapistfinder.com pretty helpful:

  • Trim the tree, and your gift list. It’s time to downsize, especially in this economy. If you’re buying a gift for every sibling, aunt, uncle and in-law, talk to your family about drawing names and buying for just one person each, and set a price limit. Schedule a holiday potluck or dinner out with friends and forgo gifts, or get the group together for a festive volunteer activity, such as serving a meal at a local soup kitchen. Focus on enjoying one another’s time minus the stress of gift giving.
  • Channel Santa’s workshop. Enlist the help of your partner and kids in holiday preparations. Give the kids gifts to wrap, get their help making holiday cookies, give your partner a list of gifts to buy on a lunch break, schedule a family decorating day – the stress relief, plus the time you save, will make you want to spread “Joy to the World!”
  • Here we come a-scheduling. Coordinating holiday activities for everyone in the family can be overwhelming. Create a family holiday calendar that you post in a prominent place that includes color-coded activities for every family member. At a glance, you’ll be able to see what obligations are coming up, if you’re overbooked and what you need to prepare. Pencil in several shopping trips to ensure you’re not scrambling at the last minute.
  • Make a list … and check it twice. It sounds simple, but making a list of who you need to shop for, how much you want to spend and gift ideas will eliminate a lot of stress and last-minute trips to the store.  Also, buy some generic gifts to have on hand, like candles or gift cards, that you can grab if you need a spur-of-the-moment gift.
  • Say no. You don’t have to attend every holiday gathering you’re invited to, or participate in every white elephant gift exchange. Graciously decline, and you won’t be overwhelmed by obligations that aren’t a priority for you.

If I can manage to do just one of these, I might have clear skin just in time for the holiday photo I need to schedule.

C’mon, Get McHappy

Wednesday, November 18th, 2009

We all sat still, listening, hanging on her words. But Toni Santiago’s voice suddenly crumbled, and in that moment, we saw her strength and raw emotion bubble to the surface. Toni is grappling with a situation no mother ever wants to find herself in – her 9-year-old son Carlo has cancer.

I was among a group of  mom bloggers who came together on Friday to tour the Ronald McDonald House near Childrens Hospital Los Angeles on Sunset. For more than 30 years, the Ronald McDonald Houses throughout the U.S. and beyond have provided an affordable, comfortable and supportive place to stay for parents and siblings who are dealing with probably one of the most difficult times in their families’ lives.

With resolve and practiced composure, Toni continued to share the message of the Ronald McDonald House Charities, which have given her and her family  a home away from home while her 9-year-old son receives treatment. He recently suffered a relapse, and Toni’s husband is thousands of miles away at their home in Hong Kong.

“You just do what you have to do,” Toni later told me. “You just do it.”

As mothers, we can easily see ourselves in Toni’s shoes – and for a lot of us, the experience brought home the fact that we need to put our fears aside and step up, just like these moms have to. And we learned a lot about Ronald McDonald House Charities. For instance, did you know:

  • The greater L.A. area has five houses? We toured a one-year-old addition to the Fountain Avenue building, which with the original 1980 building can house 75 families.
  • The homes have stocked kitchens where families often gather. “Food is the universal language,” says Vincent Bryson, executive director of the Los Angeles Ronald McDonald House. The homes also have laundry facilities, workout rooms and libraries as well as computer rooms and video game areas for “healthy” siblings.
  • Families are charged only $25 per night (or whatever they can afford).
  • The charities are supported locally by donations through those ubiquitous boxes at cash registers as well as local restaurant owner-operators (and other corporate and private donors and supporters).
  • The Ronald McDonald House Charities also support mobile health clinics, scholarships and Family Rooms inside the hospitals.

How can you get involved? McHappy Day on Nov. 20 is a major fundraising time for the RMHC. On that day (actually, today through Nov. 20) you can visit your local McDonalds and purchase a “Give A Hand” for $1. Other ways to help include:

  • Download the “Give A Hand for Ronald McDonald House Charities” Facebook application and share Hands to support the charities.
  • On Nov. 20 purchase something from select menu items and $1 will be donated to RMHC.
  • Volunteer! The L.A. Ronald McDonald House is always looking for kitchen help, office assistance, fundraising help and general family support. You can also help decorate for the holidays, provide gifts for holidays and birthdays or sponsor an event.

    L.A. mom bloggers surround Access Hollywood's Billy Bush and former Miss Universe Dayanara Torres at an L.A. McDonald's, where we learned about Ronald McDonald House Charities.

Sucking Up To Twilight

Wednesday, November 18th, 2009

Sure, moms have Robert Pattinson to keep us eagerly tuned into The Twilight Saga: New Moon movie opening this weekend. But what do our babies have to share in this vamporific movement that is sweeping the nation?

How about some fangs to suck on?

This adorable-yet-creepy pacifier from Stupid.com ($9.99, for ages 3 months and older) is a fun way to put some teeth into this Twilight madness. Just hide the garlic.

Shooting Stars Winners Announced!

Monday, November 16th, 2009

This is it – the big “reveal.” What we’ve all been waiting for! This year was as tough as ever to pick winners in the three age categories (babies-18 months; 19 months-6 years; 7-12). But somehow we managed to pull our top contenders from all the beautiful faces that appeared at the event last month at the Skirball Cultural Center. So, thanks to everyone who participated! And thanks to the Skirball, the fabulous host for this year’s event.

Parents, your “mock” covers are coming soon. And watch for these faces to appear on upcoming issues of L.A. Parent in 2010!

L.A. Parent’s Shooting Stars 2009 Winners

Baby category: Zoe, 7 months, Oak Park

Child category: Dylan, 3-1/2 years, Woodland Hills

Youth category: Livia, 7 years, Studio City

L.A. Parent’s Shooting Stars 2009 Runners Up

RU, baby: Gisele, 7 months, L.A.

RU, child: Joseph, 6-1/2 years, Westchester

RU, youth: Adolfo, 10 years, Panorama City

Get Crafty

Thursday, November 12th, 2009

Are you good with a glue gun? Handy at the holidays? Well, I’m typically not, although occasionally something spurs me into a creative mode – next thing you know, I’ve got a Christmas tree filled with acorns painted to look like little Santas.michaelselves

If you’ve got a holiday project you’re fond of, you might want to check out the “Handmade Holiday Contest” at that Mecca of all things handmade: Michaels. Through Dec. 20, the arts and crafts store is awarding two $100 gift cards each week to the top vote-getters: Just upload a picture of your creation, and visitors will rate their top picks.

The store is also selecting grand-prize winners for “Best Creative Project” and “Best Creative Project Under $20″ that will each earn a $250 gift card and a trip for two to New York City to see the queen of craftiness herself taping The Martha Stewart Show.

If you have no paper-and-glue skills whatsoever, you can attend the weekly (and free) in-store holiday workshops that cover everything from kid stuff to how to make your own awesome gift wrap (which might even turn out better than the gift itself). Or if you can build your skills at home by checking out the how-to webisodes.

Then you have no excuse not to drag out your box of sequins and pine cones and get crafting!

Getting Our Kicks

Wednesday, November 11th, 2009

Sometimes you just have to take time out to think about something you wouldn’t ordinarily think about. So here’s your tidbit for the day: The Santa Monicaroute66 Pier has officially been named the western terminus of historic Route 66.

I have to admit, that fact mainly piqued my interest since I’m “fresh” from a long road trip from L.A. to Albuquerque. We took I-40, which roughly parallels and sometimes runs right over the famous old strip of striped asphalt. Because Jack is 5 and requires at least 37 stops an hour for every human function and necessity you can think of, we got to know every weed, truck stop and tourist trap that populates these often desolate stretches.

But rather than rolling my eyes and sighing loudly with each “I’m hungry!” we indulged in some of those touristy stops. Admittedly, we were mostly relegated to less attractive stretch of the “Mother Road,” as John Steinbeck proclaimed it. capNeedles leaves a lot to be desired, but Barstow, with its signature railroad depot-themed McDonald’s, was bustling with tourists. We paused at the Petrified Forest but since we actually started making some time, didn’t get a chance to view the Meteor Crater (let’s save something for next time). Jack got a coon-skin cap (or “raccoon hat,” as he preferred to call it), and we all ate plenty of greasy food while admiring  Native American jewelry, moccasins and Route 66 collectibles.

Our ultimate destination was a friend’s wedding in Albuquerque, and the stretch of 66 in Old Town there doesn’t disappoint with its retro neon signs and old buildings and cafes that hark back to a time when seatbelts were just a gleam in the eyes of lawmakers.

The historic route rolls east all the way to Chicago, but there was no “official” western end … it just sort of trailed off into a maze of streets in Santa Monica before disappearing at the Pacific Ocean. But today, a motorcade of vintage cars parked at a replica of the long-lost “End of the Trail” sign on the pier, finally bringing “closure” to those die-hard fans of Route 66 – which, thanks to Jack, we all got to know a little better.

Something Fishy at Scarium

Tuesday, November 3rd, 2009

Check out these photos from the recent Scarium of the Pacific at the Aquarium of the Pacific. This event reminded me just how great our hometown aquarium is – if you haven’t been there for a while (or, heaven forbid, never been there), pack up your little fishies and plan to spend a day exploring the tanks and exhibits. My kids love the shark petting and sea otters. But you’ll find an jumble of jellies, SCUBA divers who talk to visitors, and more information than you thought you could handle on the delicate ecosystem of the California coastline.

Of course, at Scarium we saw wildlife of a different sort (photos by Terresa Burgess and Carolyn Graham). From left: the L.A. Parent craft table stayed busy; Michele Weiss, account executive, poses with a pint-sized MJ impersonator; a sea jelly showed up; L.A. Parent account exec Helene Chemele played her cards right; Associate Editor Ronna Mandel with witchy Editor Carolyn Graham; a tiny chicken; Managing Editor Christina Elston met the resident otter.

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